New Mom

Dear Carol-Rose:
I have just given birth to my first baby, a boy.  When I went home from the hospital with my
new son and husband, I requested that only MY mother be there.  Now, my mother-in-law is
very hurt.  It has caused hard feelings and there is an iciness about her towards me.  My husband
says I was wrong and I should apologize to his mother.

I think she should have understood.  What do you think I should do ?
NEW MOM
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Dear New Mom:
Here is a classic little poem for you to read and help you decide:

   "Oh mother-in-law, Oh mother-in-law,
     forgive me for being so petty.
     My new-born son is one day old,
     And I hate his wife already ! " 

It is clear that your husband's mother feels left out and will argue that she is the same grandma 
as your mother.  You didn't mean to hurt her and should let her know that.

Consider that you might be in her position some day, now that you have a son,... so be generous.
What goes around comes around and bragging rights go to both sides of the family.
Enjoy your baby.  It is a uniquely precious time for all the family. 

Congratulations!
Carol-Rose
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