Old Shoe

Dear Carol-Rose: 

I am married for 40 years to a successful man who has become very wealthy and is generous to me. I am residing in Florida full time, and my husband travels to our apartment in New York, Monday thru Friday AM, to handle his various business entities. I overheard his conversations recently and it cut me like a knife. He was making plans with a woman in New York. It did not sound random, but an in depth conversation and sounded like they were romantically intimate. She sounded young, as reference was made to rollerblading. (I hope his old back gives out!) I am devastated and feel like a discarded "old shoe." Should I confront him? What should I do? 

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Dear "Old Shoe": 
There is something to be said for "Old Shoes". THEY ARE VERY COMFORTABLE! 

​Here are several approaches you could take: 

1. Hire a detective in New York. 
2. Take a trip to New York and stake your claim. 
3. Up your own game. 
4. Get a divorce attorney. 
5. THE MOST PROBABLE APPROACH: Be upfront and discuss this obvious betrayal. Find out if this is his new way of life, someone important, or perhaps even multiple people. Decide if your comforts are more important to you than the fact that you are sharing and vows have been broken. You are dealing with an unknown. It might be just as you think, or you might be surprised. Get the facts! "Just the facts Ma'am!" Only then can you make a proper decision as to the way you wish your life to proceed.

​Feel free to write to me again. 

​Carol-Rose, 
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