CINDERELLA STEPMOTHER

Dear Chatterbox: 

I inherited 2 stepdaughters in my new marriage. I have included them, loved them, and enhanced their lives positively. 

Although I met their father 20-plus years after their parents' divorce, their mother is still angry and resentful. Her feelings overlap with the girls and consequently a lack of respect for me. I feel like I am the "Cinderella" Stepmother; like the roles in the story have been reversed.
How can I stop this destructive cycle and blend our family? 
Cinderella Stepmother 

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Dear Cinderella Stepmother: 
Although you tried, it is generally true that it is hard to mother another woman's children, particularly when their mother harbors resentment and interferes. Perhaps friendship is the best you can accomplish. Like the old adage says, "If you don't expect, you won't be disappointed." 

I suggest that you step back and live your best life with your husband. Hopefully, as they mature, they will respect your position in the family. Just do your best and hope for their growth in the right direction. Try a one-on-one discussion with them and reiterate your welcoming and nurturing feelings. 

Keep an open mind and heart and see what the future brings. Good luck! 

Carol-Rose
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