Dear Chatterbox: I had a fling in the army over 50 years ago. Through our modern-day electronic and internet help, a call was received in my home, saying, "I am his daughter." Although I knew of her existence, I was sent to Korea and told by the Mother, that this child was being put up for adoption. The call was received by my wife. My wife wants nothing to do with this and is angry that it is being brought into our lives. My wife maintains that I did nothing to find this child for well over 50 years, and since she was adopted she is not legally mine or entitled to anything of mine. My wife feels that this will be unsettling for our family and problematic for finances. All I can say is, Yikes! Dear Yikes:
As far as being legally entitled to anything monetary, since she was adopted by another family, she is no longer entitled to inheritance. As far as your other children, it could cause a can of worms. Your wife is entitled to her feelings. It doesn't seem like your emotions enter into this and it is odd that for over 50 years, this never came up. It is a curiosity that most adopted children possess. Most times they want to know who their biological parents were. This may not go any further than pure curiosity. I suggest that you and your wife be united and consider all the pros and cons that this relationship will or will not entail. It is purely a decision for you both as you are married and it affects all members of the family. Good luck! Carol-Rose Your Favorite Chatter Box
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